After hearing all about Misty for months, Jared finally decided to ask her out for a cup of coffee. As they talked and made plans, that cup of coffee quickly escalated into going out to dinner and grabbing drinks. Over the next 16 months, Misty and Jared dated, laughed and cried, fought and made up, then Jared proposed on Easter Sunday after a sunrise service in Maui. These lovebirds were married in Charlotte on a chilly October morning in 2011, and the rest is history. We are thrilled to celebrate Misty and Jared at The Big Fake Wedding Charlotte!
What was the most unique part of your engagement story?
From him: I proposed to Misty in Hana, Maui….thousands of miles away from our friends and family in Charlotte. Before leaving for Maui, knowing I was going to propose, I asked her closest friends to write Misty a note or a letter to congratulate and celebrate with her on this exciting day. So, after the excitement of the actual proposal simmered down, we shared this really sweet, memorable time of sitting on the side of a mountain, overlooking the Pacific ocean, reading extremely kind words of encouragement and celebration from her friends as we entered into this new territory of engagement. And honestly, this moment has served as great example of our marriage thus far…..continually relying upon the encouragement of our friends and community, knowing we cannot do everything on our own.
What was the absolute best memory from your wedding day?
From her: It is hard to pinpoint the absolute best memory from our wedding day. For months after our wedding, we couldn’t stop talking about how perfect it was. We had a small budget and did a lot ourselves. But, we made sure that every decision reflected us and our love for each other, for Jesus, for our family and friends…the music, the food, the traditions we followed and the ones we didn’t. One of my favorite moments was right after we & our bridal party left the ceremony. Jared and I went back in to the sanctuary and each took an aisle, and row by row, we personally dismissed our guests. We were able to connect with each one of our guests, hug them, and thank them for being a part of our day.
From him: Due to the time of day that our wedding was held, Misty and I chose to see each other before the ceremony so that we could get some photos captured outside in the daylight. So we arranged for a “first look” to occur in the church’s sanctuary. I stood at the front of the sanctuary with my back to where Misty entered the room. And as she walked towards me on the carpeted floor, for about 10 seconds all I could hear was her gown brushing against the floor as she came closer and closer to where I was standing. To me, that sound was the sweetest thing I heard all day as it represented the culmination of so much anticipation and time and work….of finally getting to see my beautiful bride!
What is the best date you have ever had?
From her: The best date we have ever had was probably on our honeymoon. I will never forget driving along the Outer Banks with leftover pizza and beer in our backseat. We stopped at a random beach, had a picnic lunch, and just enjoyed being together. Our best dates usually involve takeout thai food, a good beer, and good conversation or a game (only when I win, of course :))
What inspires you about each other?
From him: The thing I am continually amazed and inspired by in Misty is that she is always up for an adventure. I, admittedly, often view life as being too hard, seeing everything as a chore that will take time and effort. Misty, conversely, sees opportunity and excitement! I will often times arrive home from a day at work to music blaring throughout the house and Misty dancing wildly with our 2-year-old….just because! Or she will find a stop on a long road trip, just for us to see something new and exciting even if it means delaying our travel by an hour or more. To me, she is full of life and adventure, and that is a beautiful thing to witness each day.
What advice would you give an engaged couple?
From her: The best advice I would give an engaged couple is to remember that you aren’t just preparing for one day. You are preparing for the rest of your life. Don’t neglect time together during your engagement. Talk about your dreams as a couple. As a family. Remind yourselves daily that all the time, stress, energy, and effort that can go into planning a wedding is important, but not nearly as important as the foundation you are building as a married couple. Read books together. Talk to other married couples. Look at marriages you admire and seek those people out. If faith is important to you, pray together. Date. And after you get married? Do all of those same things all over again. And once you’re married, go to bed together at the same time if you can. It really makes a difference.
From him: Before you leave for your honeymoon, buy a really nice smelling candle. In fact, buy 4 or 5 of the same scent. And on your honeymoon, whenever you are in your room, burn the candle as much as you can. Whatever you are doing, just always burn the candle. Then, when you get home, break into your supply of that same scented candle and occasionally light it throughout the year. You will be amazed at how quickly the smell will take you back to what is hopefully one of the most romantic, fun, and life-giving times of your life.
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